For Christs sakes, let’s just be freakin friends
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Throughout my life I've had many male friends. Yep. I'm one of those cliche'd "one of the guys" kind of girls. But the worst terror I ever have in my co-ed friendships is the dreaded moment when you discover that he doesn't like you. Nope. He "likes you likes you". It's the worst for these reasons:
1) You may have to reject someone you care about,
2) It was going so well up until now,
3) The person you once loved spending time with turns out was only in it cause he wanted to bang you. Which makes you feel like a worthless turd whose only redeeming quality is her titties. And no more fun with the guy who was your friend. Or any of his friends. Cause the bitches take sides.
I totally hate it when this happens. Sure, I have been on the other side, wanting to screw the hell out of my good buddy. But more often than not, many chicks are plagued by the friend who wants more than that. They frequently pounce when you've just broken up with your boyfriend, etc.
You can never tell when it's going to happen. And it's crappy to think you'd have to assume that's the only reason a guy would be your friend. After all, that implies that there's no other good reason to know you.
Sure, sometimes a little sexual tension takes over between two friends, and sometimes it can be totally cool afterwards. But other times, it's like so totally lame.
Just- come on guys. Be my freakin friend. And if you're having a party, let me bring my other guy friends too while you're at it. I do not come with a pack of chicks. This I just cannot provide. Cause I don't really have "friends" as it were anyway. Um. Yeah …
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This is a somewhat serious post today. Since I often defend the male side of this argument, I’ll write a quick response.
I think the solution is for you to ask the men you like out. That way, there is no confusion. If you like them, you will ask them out. Otherwise, they shouldn’t ask you and waste their time. Of course if you’re asking, then you should do the paying for the date. But that’s just me.
I think that if there is a strong friendship base and he’s honest about potential feelings then all can be ok. If he is just trying to bang you, then that’s a problem.
I wanna hear the post about how you want to get laid but the boys just want to be friends. After all, most of us already know that our female friends get pissed when all we want to do is bang them.
Hey Dave, consider it next Tuesday’s girlspoking!
You are a what you pretend to despise. Why not go by the name “carrie”? The chic lit boring topic and poor execution of it is pathetic.
Ah well, Joe. I’m new here. Will try better next time.
Or, I could just go over there and kick Joe’s ass. That’s a better option, I think. Pathetic is what will describe his sorry state after getting a good pummeling.
Be nice, Joe.
And I’ll bring the whip, we’ll called BDSM sex and the city…k?
I will readily admit I am halfway retarded and know practically nothing. But I do know what guys think. And if you are somewhat a goodlooking chick, no guy just wants to be friends. We are all dickheads like that.
Guys barely want to be friends with each other, I might add.
I have been one of “those” guys. I see your point though. I won’t argue with you, but… as one who has been “friended” more times than I care to remember (and it was because I really liked them), what is especially irksome is when the girl begins dating an arse, breaks up with him and then complains about the lack of “good” guys who just love her. Right.