Mine.
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If I was a heroine in a Greek tragedy my tragic flaw would be my selfishness. My mother has always believed that she is the sun that the universe revolves around so naturally she raised my brother and I as two spoiled little brats. We never had to share. He had his and I had mine. My cousins hated and loved our house because while we had all the best in Nintendo and go-karts and Barbies, we ruled over our things with iron fists: "Sure you can play with Skipper. FOR FIVE MINUTES ONLY AND NEVER CHANGE HER CLOTHES."
My 26th birthday was last week and sometimes I can act like a 6 year old. I feel it makes you a better person when you can admit your faults right? (And perhaps quasi-celebrate them, or no?)
I've always been selfish. I hate to share. It's only recently (i.e. since college) that I've been able to lend people things or not get completely pissed if I come in and my roommate is watching my television. I'm very much a MY kind of girl and I'm working on trying to not be like this anymore. So while I have learned to try and share my things these days, there is a steadfast rule that I hold to no matter what the situation. It epitomizes my selfish tendencies to the max. There are no exceptions, and if this rule is broken, friendships could be compromised and/or lost forever.
If I see him first, he's mine.
That's right. It doesn't matter if a man and I only exchanged the briefest of glances in a crowded elevator or if he's all over me at a club. It doesn't matter if I have a huge crush or I only love him from afar. If I'm the first to say he's cute, I have marked my territory. I have "peed on him". He's mine.
This seems to be a well known fact among women. If you're out with your girls and one of them brings a guy along, even if you've never heard her mention him before, HE'S HERS. So you don't see her flirting with him? Be a good friend and ask before you attempt to get your groove on with him. Or you will have a very pissed off gal pal in your midst.
So even if I'm always jumping from one guy to the next, possession is 9/10ths of the law and as long as he's with me, hands off.
It's funny–I'm usually so laidback and ready to chill. But the minute I sense someone up in my space, "on my man" if you will, the claws come out and somebody had better hold my purse. I guess it's the part of me that always wanted to be on Jerry Springer shining through.
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Nice! I don’t feel that alone then… It took me a while to be able to lend stuff out and not be thinking about it all the time. It could be that I just wouldn’t be able to “chill” until the person gave me this or that back… *sigh*. All is better now though.
Oy — there’s a reason jailhouse rules are named such. Jealousy is not attractive, although respect for your fellow female (and carrying yourself with respect) is–so your description rates evenly on the guy meter.
But no, “he’s mine” is not a hard and fast rule among women; at least, at first meet, the rule seems to be that the alpha female ‘pees’ first on me even if she’s not the first one I see or am interested in, or the first one to see me. Interesting visual, by the way. I have to deal with her first if I’m going to get alone time with my target.
If, on the other hand, I already know a girl in the group–nope, it’s still the alpha female all the way. Friendships, sadly, are not at risk unless it’s the boss girl’s beau being stolen; if I’m dating a second-string (in force of personality, that is) then being ’stolen’ will simply transfer ownership to the more dominant girl with surprisingly little fuss. Of course, this is all relative to how long I’ve known my date, how serious things are etc.–if it’s been serious I’ve never strayed, so I couldn’t say. But if it’s more casual, then the loudest girl has dibs.
It seems to me that you might be occasionally staking your claim overtop some other girl’s without even noticing it. And at the same time you’re not accounting for the fact that the guy might have the right to make his own decision, and will choose you despite a girlfriend or two throwing themselves at him. Thinking otherwise displays a lack of confidence in your part, which can be an indicator of other bad things going on. Which goes back to, jealousy is not attractive, at least not to a guy who knows the score.