What’s With Guys Who ONLY Date Fat Chicks?
Stamped: May 9th, 2007 | Toggle Similar
Tagged: BBW, facesitting, fat chicks, fetish, smothering, weirdos.
Today's little ditty is about chubby chasers–or rather–men who like fat girls. Being a biggylicious girl myself I can use words like "fat" without getting in trouble. I have no need to sugar coat as I know what I am and know my rolls.
I have been trying to figure out men who like fat women and why. I know I am attractive and I certainly don't lack confidence thanks to spending my entire life being told that I am sexy by men and women alike. While I do not hate my appearance I would be lying if I said that I have managed to ignore society's pressures and not given in to wanting to be Kate Moss thin. Who the fuck would prefer a rolly polly body to one that looks smooth and lump free in a teeny tiny bikini?? So when a man is attracted to me because of my "sexy walk" or my confidence or my carefree attitude or whatever, then I totally get it, but what about the men who specifically prefer fat women? As in: will only date BBW or super-size chicks?? When you get that specific I think it goes beyond just a preference and is more a fetish. I love muscular guys but will be the first to admit that the crushes I have burned and yearned most for were not muscular at all. SO when a man will only date a fat girl no matter what, I have to wonder why?
I have recently thumbed through a few of the men's mags that feature fat girls and found that all of the articles seemed to focus on shit like smothering or being surrounded by humongous breasts. This is fetish, is it not?
I would love to hear from these guys who consider a woman over 200Lbs to be their ideal so I could try to understand it better. Do they see a big girl and automatically cream themselves with visions of being sat on by a fat naked ass? Envision being slapped across the face with a heavy, floppy boob?? Or is it just a love of the feel of softness?
For the record — fat girls are good for more than just smothering and face-sitting!!
One guy once told me that he finds most big girls less intimidating and that's why he prefers them. What a loser! Fat or thin, no woman wants a guy who lacks a fucken backbone! So if that is the reason why some men only want big girls then that's hardly anything to be proud of!
So come on people, help me out and try to explain this to me — do you prefer fat girls cuz' it gets you off in some perverse way? Is it just a longing to be smothered or is it something a little less vulgar than that?
The main reason why this is on my mind — I recently got told that my size is simply not big enough for one guy. Not big enough for what???
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I have a completely unsubstantiated theory that the fetishism involved with big women is an unwanted side effect caused by a particular guy’s inner conflict between the side that likes bigger women, and the side that thinks he’s not supposed to. As we see in lots of other instances, trying to bottle up sexual needs results in disaster.
For me, as someone who totally digs full, healthy bodied women, the fetishism is annoying as hell. I don’t want to be smothered. I just think women with curves are fucking gorgeous.
What you wrote, is exactly me. I am heavy but very pretty and lots of men are attacted to me. But when I walk and how I dress and look, all kinds of men are attacted. I recently dated a guy who used me for sex, I could not believe there was any man out there who really would like that. Now I am wondering why. He was seeing someone else for years and I did not know it. I worked with him for several years and no one knew he had such a long term relationship. I was used, but I am fat, what the hell! Why would a guy think that way??? That’s what I want to know too. Shocked and 40 years old, wow, 40 and you think I was brought up in a cave, who knew, not me, so now I want to know.
yeah, i do prefer bbw, but i won’t NOT date a slim chick. in my OPINION i believe (and u can believe what ever u want) there are 2 types of girls, the cute ones and the hot/sexy ones. i prefer the cute ones over the hot ones ANY day and i tend to associate hot/sexy with slim and tall (again thats just me) and the ones that are cute are the short, “well rounded”, and sometimes shy types.
My likeness for women who are large and in charge is all about what you called ‘the love and feel for softness’. I have often felt conflicted in this attraction, afraid that it would construed as a fetish and not a preference and of course, what the guys love to say about it ‘Yeah, you can’t do better than that?’ ‘Go ahead, bang a few fatties until you meet someone better’ etc…
It’s not a longing to be smothered, not a longing to be whacked in the face with a large breast but yes I will admit to saying ‘Yes, it does get me off’. Whether or not you consider that perverse is up to you.
I’m not without standards, if a woman does nothing for me emotionally, the physical attraction won’t matter. However, with all things emotionally being equal, I will desire the sized 20 woman over the size 2 one. I know what I like and I know what turns me on.
As a BBW I can say that men who prefer larger women over the slender do so for the same reason white men only date white women, black men date women with big ass, etc. Its what they want. Being skinny does not make you sexier to everyone, just the ones who like slender women.
I found this quite interesting, mainly due to the fact that I do enjoy being facesat by a woman, which apparently classes me as a ‘weirdo’ and I do personally prefer fuller figured women. I personally don’t consider the fact that I prefer BBW women a fetish, it’s just my preferred type of woman. Do I only date big women? No, I am currently with a woman thats not even close to a BBW and I’m extremely happy with her. Personality always comes first and I wouldn’t ever consider not dating a girl just because she’s slim. As for liking to have my face sat on? Yeah that is a fetish, but I enjoy that no matter what the size of the girl I’m with, and I’d never just let anyone do it to me. To answer your questions:-
- Yes, I prefer fuller figured women.
- No, I will date any size of woman.
- Yes, that is a fetish, you will find more smother content with slim girls in it, its not just BBW’s.
- No, I don’t envision a girl sat on me or slapping me in the face with her boobs. I do like a softer feel, but that’s got nothing to do with my fetish.
There is probably plenty of other men that think differently from me, but that’s how I feel personally.
I would like to say that as a mature man I prefer a fat woman but other women will do as well. I am not stuck on just fat women. Although I am into facesitting and would love to be facesat by a large lady I think the real reason why I love large ladies is because I love to cuddle up against all that soft flesh burying myself within so to speak. Call it crazy but it is as if I am in a comfort zone whereby once within the folds of such a woman I feel as if no harm from the outside world can come to me. Of course we all know that that is not the case but that is how I feel. Now initially that may be what attracts me to larger ladies but once you get to know them you’ll find that there is a whole lot more to them then what I have written here. I honestly know you will find, given enough time, that fat women are sensitive, kind, considerate, loving, caring, nurturing, intelligent, and have a physical beauty all their own. Now how can I say this as if I know? Well I married a woman who was 115 pounds when we got married. Over the years this woman ballooned to a whopping 265 pounds and standing at 5′2″ she appeared rather obeese for her size. Did this bother me? No it did not. I loved her just as much at 265 pounds as I did at 115 pounds and would never giver her up for a much thinner woman. Why? Because I’ve grown to realize that not ony is it great to be cuddled by a large woman getting lost in the folds so to speak but this once thin woman is just as good as any other woman 150 pounds lighter then she is. Now, if she lost all this weight, would I move on to someone as heavy as she once was? Of course not. Why? I would not move on simply because over the years, thin or fat, she has become a very important part of me and to lose that part would be like losing a much needed arm or leg. I simply don’t think I could survive without her. So to make a long story short. Large, fat, obeese, over sized, SSBBW or BBW are just as attractive in every way as their counterparts (thin model like women). Take it from me. I know because I married to a once thin woman turned large lady and don’t regret any of it.
I dont know what kind of men you have been speaking to to get your information on this subject but i dont agree with your opinnion. My bf is into facesitting and so am i, but its not my size that makes him or I want to do it. He has dated bigger girls than me in the past but the way we both see it is a woman is a woman no matter what her size is. If your into stuff like facesitting, sure a little cusion on the bottom is better, but i know he wouldnt complain if i got lighter. Not that he’d cheer either cause he loves me the way i am. Size and facesitting do not go hand in hand, a man can have a rail thin gf and still want her to sit on his face! It all depends on what gets you off, facesitting works for some but not for others…big or small.
Speaking from experience as a guy that prefers fat women I can honestly say that it is not a fetish but a preference for a specific body type. I’ve dated all size women and for whatever reason I’ve always come back to the fat chicks. For me they just have that certain something that I find attractive. This is not to say that I find all fat girls attractive and all thin girls are unattractive because that simply isn’t the case. But when you find that certain fat babe that has the whole package going for her, self confidence, personality, intelligence and beauty then my friend you have something special. It doesn’t matter if she is 200lbs or 500lbs if she has all that going for her she is a keeper.
I think for the most part, a guy that likes a fat chick is the kind of guy that goes for the idea that a woman should be plush as well as beautiful and intelligent. She should be comfortable with herself and not give a damn about societal pressures to conform to an image attainable only by a select few.
But I think that for some the fat chick is a symbol of rebellion and a symbol of what we should not touch, partake in or consort with in our daily lives. We are bombarded with this very by this idea through out pop culture. For example fat women are viewed negatively on TV, film and literature. She is usually portrayed as either an ignorant, unattractive lazy, slob, an ugly bully or as a loser lacking any form of self control. So for some the attraction becomes simply because society says NO don’t not touch. I think this is where the fetish stuff comes into play and the nastier the fetish, the more people attracted to this train of thought like it. Face sitting, smothering and feederism are all associated with the idea that fat chicks are bad and getting all nasty with one is one way to thumb your nose at the established norm. I may be wrong but I think that guys that only seek out obese women for fetish type activity do so for the same reasons that some women purposely seek out the “bad boy” type male. It’s simply a way of not conforming to how society thinks we should act and behave.
I thik you are all wrong!
First of all the reason men like women with meat on their bones is not because of fetish or anything else being said here.
The reason is because we like it, no secret, no hidden agenda.
We like woman that have big breasts and big asses, and plenty of curves.
We like to hide our heads between their mounds of flesh.
That’s my story and I am sticking to it!
i beleave that men that date fat woman do it because they are still in the closet about there homosexuality and use a fat girl as a way to make people think they are not gay.
To “feckzor” above:
Is that what you did??
i think men get with big girls is because they are easier to get than the skinny hot babe! all men have tried to land that smoking hot model, actress, cheerleader, ect! and when they fail they move down the ladder to less atractive fatter women!!! men tell you they like fat girls cuz they dont want to lie to you, but they would rather be with that hot chick with the perfect body!
dont believe me then drop me a email and tell me about it bbrriiaann73@hotmail.com!
seriously a lot of the big girl lovers are black. and a lot of black men love booties. so they are already on the path to homosexuality. im not saing because they are black they have gay traits im saying because they like fat women means they have a gay traits.
to the men posters if you are single and like fat chicks then you can go to my myspace page and look me up I am fat and in need of a serious relationship my user name on myspace is uniqueaquarian72 just like most women I used to be skinny until I had 3 children in a row I have carried this extra weight around for 13 years and it is much harder to get rid of then to put on but that is a price most women pay for being a mother and I wouldn’t trade being a mother for the world so to all the men who like (fat chicks) go check out my page
For me, it’s all about the curves, the softness of the female body. To the other losers like “fezwig” or “fezquag,” (whatever) who want to mischaracterize my preference as a hidden homosexual tendency or whatever, I am all about women.
Anyone remember the great painter Rubens? Yes folks, there was an entire era dedicated to portraying the beauty of the large female form. Also, take a look at the idols uncovered from the dawn of civilization (ancient Mesopotamia, etc.): the curvaceous female was the center of it all. The giver of life, etc., etc.
I make no apologies for my preference. That said, I also don’t discriminate against skinny women…They just don’t turn me on: they look unhealthy. Frankly, they look like a sacks of bones—I prefer a real woman to a stick figure.
’nuff said.
wel look it is a hidden homosexual tendency its the truth. go ahead and be gay then you fag.
Well, Brian, it’s not like you’d be my first choice for a lay either. I’d try to pick up sexy, funny, intelligent men, and then not quite as sexy, funny, intelligent men, and then men that are none of the above but seems to like fucking, and if I can’t score by then, maybe, if desperation hits, I’ll come around your place. Not fucking likely I’d have to sink that deep, though. Keep those pornchannels, you’re gonna need’em.
I would argue that it’s just an aesthetics thing. Having angles and corners and being cut or whatever is kind of a masculine look, whereas having flowing lines and curves and roundness is more feminine. Or, at least, my definition of feminine, which is why I personally tend to be more attracted to girls that look that way. I think though, to your point about men who will date big girls to the exclusion of all others, and would not consider dating someone under a certain weight, that you’re getting into fetish territory, particularly when that ideal weight is well above what could be considered healthy for the lady herself.
It probably also depends on whether the guy’s body comes into it–like, is a dude into a bigger girl just because he’s a bigger dude, or, you know, because he’s the opposite, he’s little and wants to be dominated…because at that point it’s not really about the girl’s body, at all, it’s about the dude.
And also (and finally) I would say that the definition of ‘normal’–like, the yardstick by which we are measuring when we say ‘bigger’ or ‘thinner’ or even ‘fat’–is a little on the heavier side for men in general than women think it is. I think there’s a vocal minority of guys who insist on wafer-thin hospice-ready girls, and then of course the fashion industry–which, let’s be honest, is not being run or staffed by fellows who are looking at girls anyway–but that the rest of us are pretty much down with a bit more girl than the media seems to suggest.
My two cents, anyway.
i am attracted to all types of women but for some reason i think there is nothing sexier than a plus sized woman with self confidence. i do have a thing for big asses though so… as for the facesitting its great, I think everyone has their preference and if someone you liked lieks big women than that just means that he had a good experience with one and it dosent mean that you are any less sexy. Some men also have fetishes so… give em a break it dosent always mean that those men have low self esteem and think fat women are easy, or that they have some gross fetish. its jsut what they like. and i think the homosexual closet idea is ludacris, i think im a pretty hot guy and i have dated big women, that dosent mean i think they are easy and it definately dosent mean i might be Gay.
men i am a rather large girl and i can say men like you have used me being nice then almost beging for me to sit on there face or put my boobs in there face. a lot of men lie with the ways they act!!
well.. If someone wants you to sit on there face I’d take that as a compliment!!
You should use them right back! it can be a win/win situation. I just get angry when people say that a man must be going after easy women when when he dates a bigger woman or hes a closeted homosexual. I think there are some big women that are very very attractive, more so than some skinny ones! i have dated soemone that was over 350 and i have dated someone that was 95. Its all about attitude! I met a young lady that was told all her life that she was ugly and fat and she went to school and got like 3 degrees and a doctorate and now works for the state as a researcher making 160 a year! I see it like this: Use what god gave you and if you think you are lacking in one area work on something else! you know. Im not the body builder type that i wish and try to be so.. I study harder and try to have a better attitude. i would rather date a woman that cosmo thought was ugly with a good attitude and brains than a skinny bitch any time. These are only my observations though i could be way way off.
the way i see it,some men dont like skinny girls.
i prefer a bigger woman but i wont deny the fact that i have liked skinny girls;granted there is a limit on being “too big” or “too skinny”
if a guy is a complete asshole then yes,he would date a big chick(even though it could be ANY type of girl) for those reasons.
but for the most part it’s based on what you like in a woman,just like what a woman likes in a man.
be it big tits and ass/big dick,knowlage,beauty,etc.