To Fuck Like A Man
Stamped: January 17th, 2008 | Toggle Similar
Tagged: casual sex, commitment issues, confession of the week, dicks, love letters, nsa sex, relationships, sex talk, the bedroom.
What happened to the teenaged girl who used to look for any excuse to write a love letter and just couldn’t get enough of romantic comedies with über-cheesy endings? The same girl who just could not comprehend how her friends could sleep with someone that they weren’t in love with? I miss her. Somewhere along the way this overly romantic and ever-optimistic-about-love girl grew a great big set of balls and apparently a dick that has made her more of a man than the actual men she dates! Wtf??
I used to love the whole afterglow that followed great sex and that sheer bliss of reveling in the yumminess of the person lying next to me as our bodies lay there sweaty and deliciously spent. Now the moment the sex is over—no matter how great the guy is—I just wanna bolt! I’m the one who turns and says “well that was great, but I have an early day tomorrow so you better go” or the one who slinks out the moment he’s in a deep sleep with nothing more than a peck on the cheek and a quick “I’ll call you” even though I probably won’t. This is not to say at all that I am some major player who is getting a ton of action or anything; my good set of European-made morals stops me from having too much casual sex, but being with my most recent beau has just made me acutely aware of my ‘manliness'! Do I blame a lack of worthy men or my own deep-seeded commitment phobia that I still deny more often than not?
I recall an early episode of Sex and the City where Carrie decides that she is going to try to “have sex like a man”. It worries me that I am not even trying and yet, somehow, I seem incapable of anything more these days. If I’m not mistaken though; this same episode ended with Carrie meeting Big for the first time as she left the apartment of her conquest. I guess there may be hope for me yet… or atleast a really sexy, commitment phobic male version of myself.
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You’re not alone! lol Is it an age thing? We get what we want/need and get the f*** out! Committment Shmmittment lol
Whoa…..so glad I’m not the only one! Don’t loose hope girl, just play on!
ok, please teach me how to be like that!
I think it may be an age thing. After that first long term love breaks up and you realize “wow, I can get over this and it’s not too bad” you stop settling for any piece of shit just to have a man, then more time passes and you realize that most guys aren’t good enough for you and those girlish ideas of ‘needing’ a boyfriend/husband aren’t as true as you once thought, and voila…the commitment phobic woman! …and to tell you the truth I don’t think there is anything wrong with that, if you are happy and enjoy the once in a while casual sex rendez-vous then sit back and enjoy not having to share your income, food, or space with someone else;)
On the other hand, a little post coital snuggling isn’t such a bad thing. It adds a little warmth to the ‘Hit and Run’.
jr
I can’t help but comment. I read Girlspoke every now and then, and have been since my soph year of college. (I graduated last year) This has been the situation that many of my friends and myself included find ourselves in. The intimacy means too many things: time that we don’t have, potential heartbreak of either him or us, etc. However, the “European-made morals” is why I’m really commenting. It really irks me and I’d love if you’d explain what that means exactly.
wanna go out sometime?
hahahaha
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