A reader recently wrote in that she felt my recent posts were lacking my usual ‘wild abandon.’ I thoroughly appreciated her insight and in an attempt to redeem myself, figured I’d divulge a recent experience below. Since my emotional state of well-being often resembles the sine graph (for those who you [...]

Who hasn’t been there? The throes of passion. Four in the morning. You’re fantasizing about what a fabulous couple you’ll make at brunch. He’s fantasizing about his favorite porn and wondering if he can play it on silent without you noticing. It’s romance out of a fairy tale. Everything seems perfect, [...]

Getting in touch with my inner crazy, I recently forever spurned Mr Grey, for real this time. Remember? The shmuck that inspired to write high literature such as The Grey Relationship, My Dating Ego, Please Don’t Be Nice, and Grey Grey Grey. Yeah, see theoretically that [...]

Late on a weekday night, I found myself at my friend’s elegant New York apartment enjoying a cup of herbal tea after an utterly uninteresting night out. We’ll call my friend Rio because his background includes a decade long stay in Brazil, as well residence in several other South American [...]

Not so long ago, I wrote about New Year's as a holiday that provokes relationship angst and triggers nasty inebriated break-ups. If you and your significant other actually managed to blissfully unite under a disco ball and welcome in 2008 with joy, you’re about to be put through an [...]

What a pleasant surprise when I attended a typical ‘pre clubbing’ promotional dinner last night and found myself surrounded by six foot tall, glamorous, successful women. And no, this wasn’t a cut scene from Lipstick Jungle (which my TiVo’s stored and I plan to watch and mock, tomorrow [series [...]

Dear Men Who Date and Aspire to Date Model Behavior, Question: Do you think I wear stiletto boots over my jeans and a sexy lace underwear when going about my normal daily activities like grocery shopping, trekking through the city’s sleet storm, and sprinting between appointments? Do you think I’m magically manicured [...]

It’s not unlikely that around this time of year you may start to feel those cursed A, B, C, Ds: Alone Bothered Confused and Depressed. The winter work crunch is on, the carefree days of summer are a distant memory and to make it all worse you have the elves, wreathes, shiny holiday bells and [...]

Yes, I realize this sounds like one of those douchey Cosmopolitan headlines. FYI, I hate those girl magazines. Who needs the folks at Redbook to teach us how to NOT have an orgasm again? Instead, I’m writing to commemorate an especially interesting conversation that took place over a recent night [...]

Friday I found myself in the unusual position of being above 14th street in the heart of enemy corporate territory – the 50s and Madison. I’d had to attend a meeting at 30 Rock, naturally scheduled at an ungodly early morning hour. The good news is that I was [...]

It’s a rainy Thursday and as I sit here with a steaming hot chocolate, complete with mini marshmallows (yes I’m still five), it seems the perfect opportunity to reflect on the other immature aspects of my life. Yep, you all guessed right. I’m ranting about grey relationships yet again. [...]

I’m not what you’d call a warm and fuzzy person. I’m not so into animals and only really cute babies make me smile. Yet I’m always inevitably touched when readers email me comments about my writing that aren’t derogatory, abusive or spiteful. I even glow an extra mega-watt when [...]

So you have a relationship that’s all about fun and all about sex. You don’t share problems. You don’t share morning coffee. And you especially don’t share distressing life information. Weighty words like ‘girlfriend,’ ‘boyfriend,’ and ‘commitment’ don’t exist in the stratosphere of this non-relationship. It’s that fake grey [...]

Saturday night something magical happened. I walked to Via Della Pace for dinner (an Italian restaurant I highly recommend, the lobster ravioli’s sinful and affordable – just be prepared to pay in cash) and then danced the night away at a cheesy club. At the beginning of the night, [...]

Two years ago, when musing about various elective course options with a group of college friends, I was made aware of a class called ‘Nutrition and Health,’ which according to my sources made “everyone who took it anorexic.” Paradoxical, right? And since I spent too many formative years in [...]

Reentering the city of Milan never fails to make me emotionally unstable. I go hot and cold on this city like menopausal women on drugs. New York and I have clean, adult relationship with one another. Open communication. A stable living situation. Work. Independence. Contained craziness. Reasonable expectations. Good things. [...]

Let’s all take a moment, close our eyes, and imagine a solar system in which our dating life and our ego were not intrinsically intertwined. What a simpler universe that would be. I’m guessing that in such a world, people actually say what’s on their mind and store bought CDs [...]

Most of us at some point in our lives have gone against our better judgment and gotten involved with someone for all the wrong reasons, which can include but not be limited to: 1. Because they’re more fun and charismatic than Johnny Depp in Blow 2. Because you like hanging out / partying [...]

Whether you’ve entered into the ominous ‘live-in’ relationship or on what I call ‘the cheater’s live-in relationship’ i.e. the long distance relationship, where you cohabitate during prescheduled visiting hours, you and your significant other will inevitably be forced to partake in some kindergarten-spirited sharing. Since you’re most likely fantasizing about [...]

“Basically smart women should always be dating three guys at a time.” HUH? I precariously leaned back in my chair, gripping my espresso with excitement for what my petite, spindly pal Max (MaxMara to friends) had just announced to me. “Not only will it make you happier,” he continued, “but it [...]